Can I please have another weekend to recover from my weekend? Please?
The old roommate is outta here. She does have her keys for another week, since she’s going to come by and pick up any stray mail etc. without having to bother me. But other than that, she’s officially no longer infringing on my regular world.
I interviewed two potential roommate candidates on Sunday. One I loved. The other, not so much. I offered the place to the one I loved, but she’s decided not to move right now after all. So now the dilemma is, do I hold out and wait to see if someone comes along I like enough – or do I suck it up and go with the one I didn’t like quite so much?
The other person gave me a bit of a vibe that I didn’t quite mesh with. She actually reminded me quite a bit of the ex-roommate. Can I handle that until April? Or do I chance a financially risky (not impossible – just not preferable) situation in the hopes that someone better bites at the last minute?
The thing is – I could totally handle the ex-roomie’s quirks. I’m not so much of a stubborn cow that I expect my roommate to be exactly like me. It’s Crazy Ex-Roommate’s total and utter lack of mental stability that drove me up the wall. This potential new CR is currently pursuing a career in mental health and wellness, which makes me think that even if she is a little bit crazy, she at least has her shit together enough to help those (like CER) who totally can not keep their shit together even a little bit.
One other thing to consider, is that I’ve been strongly considering getting out of my place and into something on my own by the summer. Somewhere that has insuite laundry, and where I can own a pet. Perhaps another crazy roommate will be that extra motivation for me…
What would you do?
From experience: Don’t settle. Go with your gut.
Don’t settle for anything but the perfect roommate.
I’d try not to settle. You do have to live with them after all!!
Hiya,
Do you require a female roommate? If not, I’ve got a co-op student coming to work with me for January to April who will need a place. Granted, it’s a bit of a commute to get to my office from your place, but I’m pretty sure he’s normal… heck, I’m going to share a small office with him for 4 months. He’s married to a nice girl back in Victoria so he probably wouldn’t be there much on weekends!
Drop me a line if this might work for you.
Donna: All I really ask of a roommate is that they not inconvenience me and my world, and I’ll do my best to do the same for them.
Not doing their fare share in terms of chores, leaving huge messes in common areas, and leaving dirty dishes etc. out where they will attract bugs and other nasties are all things that make my world a much less pleasant place to be.
Having a roommate who claims she can’t do these things because she is crazy will just make me hate her – and that’s where I’m coming from right now.
I guess it depends on whether or not you’re actually going to move out of your apartment. If so, I’d see if you can stick it out on your own until April. There doesn’t seem to be much point in getting a roommate for only 5 months (unless the arrangement was that they’d transfer the rental agreement over to their name when you leave.)
April is when the Spring school semester ends, and is the time I’m looking at moving somewhere else, if I do make that call.
Hmm. I don’t know if my advice works or not, since I don’t think that you & I would mesh well as roommates at all — a lot of the things you complain about CER are traits that I have. 🙂 I also tend not to give a damn what my roommate does, and be fairly laid back as far as roommatey things. (I do have one pet peeve — teabags in the sink. I think there’s something about me that attracts people who leave teabags in the sink. I was doing dishes last night, and blaaah… hiding under the dishes were *3* teabags! Must mention that. Without gagging. Yuck, yuck, yuck.)
I mean, my roommates got two kids who are with us on weekends, and I’m fine with that despite my general dislike of children, so I figure I must be pretty easy-going.
Of course, my acceptance of other peoples quirks doesn’t mean that they accept mine… 🙂
Me? I’d wait til I found a roommate I could mesh with. But I find that I mesh with people without too much difficulty. It’s whether or not they mesh with me that makes the difference.
What happens in April (“Can I handle that till April?)” I’m a firm believer in not having to deal with crazy roommates, period. If you’re thinking about moving out on your own anyways, I’d start looking now. That’s my two cents.